Losing a pet is heartbreaking. We lost our sweet girl, Ruby, last September, and we still feel sad sometimes. Over time, though, the tears come less often. Mostly, those tears have been replaced by laughter, as we remember the years we had with her. Most of us will experience this kind of grief at some point in our lives. We lost Ruby suddenly and we didn’t have time to prepare, but we feel lucky that we didn’t have to make that dreaded decision—she made it for us. No matter how it happens, though, you’re never really ready.
Experts call this kind of grief “disenfranchised grief” because pets aren’t always recognized as full family members—but every emotion you feel is valid. For many of us, our pets are our children, and that was certainly true for us. Grieving can be a struggle, and everyone’s journey is different. Pet grief counselor Beth Bigler shares some gentle ways to navigate this difficult time:
- Create a small ritual: Place a picture of your pet by the door and greet them when you come home.
- Honor their favorite spots: Notice an empty spot on the couch? Pat it and say, “I love you, Sweetie. I’m thinking of you.”
- Follow your instincts: Everyone mourns differently, so trust whatever helps you cope.
- Express your feelings: Talk to your pet, join a support group, see a therapist, or even let out a scream if you need to.
Bottom line: Grief is deeply personal, and it’s always okay to take the time you need to honor your furry family member. Never feel silly because it’s “just a dog/ cat, etc.” I know I definitely won’t. For a little while, she was our world.
Source: Today
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